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Date: 14 Feb 2005
Time: 02:00:19 -0700
Remote Name: 69.234.20.166
My husband of 23 years wants another wife. When we married, I was not a Muslim but accepted Islam, alhamdullilah, three years later and have done my best to be a good Muslim since then. My husband did not want children when we first married because he feared that our different religions and children would surely lead to the breakup of our marriage. I had my tubes tied and put the thought of children out of my mind because I had such a marvelous husband. As the years passed, we both felt that we wanted children. We had beaten the odds of failure in a multicultural marriage, and I had accepted Islam. My tubes were repaied and we tried to have a baby, but the damage was already done. One of my tubes had been so seriously damaged from the ligation that it had to be removed. With each miscarriage and an ectopic pregnancy that required emergency surgery and damaged the one remaining tube, my husband was supportive, kind, and compassionate. Last year, all my hopes of having children were dashed when a cancerous condition required me to have a complete hysterectomy. Last summer, my husband informed me that he wanted to find another wife and have children. Believe me, I understand his desire because I want to have children, too; however, there are no options for me. I am alienated from my family because I am the only Muslim. I have no children and will soon lose my husband, too. I cannot depend on my family to give me an Islamic burial, and this is torturing me. I am fighting for my very life and feel it slipping away from me at an alarming speed. I have always worked and contributed my salary to the household. We own a home together as well as several vehicles and two businesses. I have been the one to provide healthcare for the two of us for all these years. I am terrified of losing everything that I have worked to build over these 23 years because if my husband marries and has children, they will be entitled to a portion of my home despite the fact that I contributed financially to its purchase and support. I am not sure what my options are here and have no one to talk to about all of this pain. Allah knows best, but death would be a welcome relief at this point. Inshallah, it will come for me soon.