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From: rambling
Date: 15 Jan 2005
Time: 06:38:13 -0700
Remote Name: 209.137.187.146
as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatuhu I enjoyed reading the story, I'm confused in regards to my emotion maybe you or someone can assist me in this matter, First and foremost I choose to remain anon because someone may read this and know who I am. I had a close friend at one time but something happened to change all of that. The husband has constant contact with the women because of his position (he is not a Imam) and I know and understand that. A paticular sister would ask me to ask him ? for her because of our friendship I would this for her. Well a particular day she asked me to ask him a ? for her I said no because I wanted her call herself and ask? like the other sisters & brothers do. I began feeling like I was showing favortism because she was a close friend. she then asked me to call for her which I agreed to do...well I called he answered she began talking (in a sweet voice) AT THAT MOMMENT I STARTED TO OPEN MY MOUTH TO LET HIM KNOW THAT i WAS ON THE PHONE TOO! thats when it happened they were flirting with one another I sat on the end of the phone DUMBFOUNDED i couldn't believe it. things he had asked me not to share with anyone he did so freely with her. i can't even begin to explain the emotions I felt by that time it was too late the more i tried to let him know i was on the phone also, no words would come out i just sat and listened. After they were done i hungup and sat in my chair angry etc. when he came home i told there was something I needed to tell him which i did I told him i was on the phone the whole time. when i told him he sat in front of the pc screen with a blank look on his face and ask me you heard the whole conversation I said yes. then he went from looking blank to angry cause he was busted and he knew it did I argue noo cause i knew that I was wrong, yet I was/am still angry. I came out and asked him do you want to marry her he said no but i didn't/don't believe him. i said to him this what I'm gonna do I'm gonna remove my self from this situation meaning no more favors. she gonna have to call direct cause if i remove myself from the situation now should you marry her their will not be any ill feelings on my part bi idhnillah Ever since that situation i've lost interest in reading , fixing myself up ,barely wanting to cook etc. My friendship with her has completely disolved i don't call nor speak to her unless she calls me, she know our friendship changed just from the comments she has made. example: I don't want you to think anything when our friendship was like this/or our friendship used to be like mind you I never mentioned anything to her about my feelings etc. so where is all of this coming unless you know within yourself what you did I appreciate having the oppurtunity to vent Alhamdulillah all of you may not be able to make outwhat i'm saying cause all of the rambling but i appreciate all of you just listening love all of you for the sake of Allah Ta'ala